May Newsletter, Navigating medical appointments

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Navigating medical appointments while caring for someone with dementia can be challenging, but understanding a few supportive strategies can help appointments feel more manageable and less overwhelming.

Setting the Appointment Up for Success

• Schedule appointments during the time of day your loved one tends to do best, often earlier in the day.

  • Try to keep the rest of the day as calm and routine based as possible to reduce overwhelm.

  • Write down questions, concerns, medication changes, or behaviors ahead of time so you don’t feel pressured to remember everything during the visit.

  • Bring important items such as glasses, hearing aids, medication lists, water, snacks, or comfort items.

  • Allow extra time to get ready and arrive, rushing can increase anxiety for everyone involved.

  • Keep explanations simple and reassuring. Too much information ahead of time may increase worry or confusion.

  • If possible, let the medical office know ahead of time that your loved one is living with dementia so staff can better support the visit.

  • Remember that unfamiliar environments, waiting rooms, bright lights, and noise can all be mentally exhausting for someone living with dementia.

Navigating the Appointment Together

• Speak slowly and keep communication simple, too much information at once can feel overwhelming.

• Try to avoid correcting, arguing, or pressuring your loved one to remember details they may no longer recall.

• Pay attention to signs of fatigue or overstimulation such as restlessness, increased confusion, irritability, or shutting down.

• Offer reassurance often. A calm voice, gentle touch, or familiar presence can help someone feel safer.

• Whenever possible, include your loved one in the conversation in a respectful and supportive way.

• If sensitive concerns need to be discussed, consider speaking privately with the provider before or after the appointment.

• Be prepared to advocate. Individuals living with dementia may have difficulty expressing pain, symptoms, or concerns clearly.

• If the environment becomes too overwhelming, it is okay to step outside briefly, take a break, or slow the pace of the visit.

When the Unexpected Happens and your loved one goes to the Hospital

• Consider having a small emergency folder or bag ready with important paperwork, insurance information, and comfort items.

• Let emergency responders and hospital staff know right away that your loved one is living with dementia.

• Hospital environments can increase confusion, fear, or delirium due to noise, lights, interruptions, and unfamiliar surroundings.

• Try to have one familiar support person present to provide reassurance and help communicate needs.

• Remember that behavior changes during illness or hospitalization are common and are often the brain’s response to stress and overstimulation

Returning to Calm

• It is very common for someone living with dementia to feel more tired, confused, emotional, or overstimulated after a medical appointment.

• Try to keep the rest of the day calm, quiet, and low-pressure whenever possible.

• Returning to familiar routines, favorite foods, music, or comforting activities can help the brain settle again.

• Even appointments that seem “simple” can require a great deal of mental energy and processing.

• If the appointment did not go smoothly, give yourself grace. Medical visits are challenging, and perfection is not the goal.

• Focus on connection and comfort afterward rather than correcting details or reviewing everything that happened.

• Take a moment to care for yourself too. Supporting someone through appointments can be emotionally and physically exhausting for care partners as well.

• Remember that your calm presence, preparation, and advocacy matter more than having a “perfect” appointment experience.

 Your effort, advocacy, and love matter more than a perfect outcome.

Your check list:

Dementia Medical Appointment Checklist

Before Leaving for the Appointment:

☐ Insurance card

☐ Photo ID

☐ Updated medication list

☐ List of recent concerns or changes

☐ Questions written down ahead of time

☐ Emergency contact information

☐ Glasses or hearing aids

☐ Walker, wheelchair, or mobility device if needed

☐ Water and light snack

☐ Comfort item (blanket, photo, favorite object, etc.)

☐ Extra briefs or personal care items if needed

☐ Phone charger

☐ Appointment paperwork or referrals

Contact me

Some Products that I like

Fidget Blanket-I love this fidget!! It folds up into a pocketbook size item. Its mature and sophisticated and might be the best thing for your loved one while waiting in the Doctors office! 

The Pocket- This amazing tool attaches to your cell phone, voice records your Dr appointment then provides you with an easy-to-read summary from the appointment!! A must have during sensitive or stressful moments when you need to recall critical information.

A great article: How to talk to your Dr about Sensitive Issues

“Care isn’t about doing everything right. It’s about showing up again after things get messy.”

— The dementia family caregiver

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